The Carter Family

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Update on baby & momma

We are 38 weeks and 5 days pregnant. I am actually very surprised we haven't had the baby. Even from the very beginning of this pregnancy I have felt that I would have this baby early. Then we had ultrasounds and a few health issues come up that pointed to that direction too. When a doctor tells you, "it looks like we will be inducing you within the next week or 2 or don't be surprised if you go into labor in the next week" and that was 2 weeks ago you kind of get it in your head you will be having this baby early. So I have all the baby clothes washed, everything set, the carseat installed, last minute items from the store, everything except the baby. Well, I did just pack the hospital bag today... In fact I haven't finished it but I will get to that.

I am extremely moody. More like I don't want to talk to anybody or anything. Its kind of a rough place to be in mentally... I hate feeling this way but I am trying to work through it.

Last Friday I met my new doctor. I liked her she just isn't my old doctor. She said she would induce me this week at my appointment but I see the PA so I doubt that will happen. In fact I don't think I will see the new doctor again... I think the rest of my appointments are with the PA. I left a bit frustrated from the appointment because I didn't get to share anything about how I was feeling or what my other pregnancies/deliveries were like. She didn't even measure my belly which in the past has been a concern because I usually measure 2 weeks small. She did check my cervix and didn't say anything but stripped my membranes. OUCH! Everything happened so fast that when I walked out the door I thought to myself, man thats not how I wanted the appointment to happen. I felt funny all Friday afternoon and night and even felt a few contractions through the night. Saturday nothing. Saturday night a few more contractions.

****TMI****
Sunday morning as I was getting ready for church I lost my mucous plug which included blood. And as I researched it a bit more I realized we could be in labor pretty soon and kind of got excited. Well its Tuesday night and still nothing. I have had some contractions and I feel them mostly when I am laying down.
*****TMI OVER*****

In some ways I feel bad for wishing this pregnancy gone and I AM SCARED TO DEATH of this delivery but I am ready for a change.

We toured the hospital I will be delivering at and I wasn't impressed. LIKE AT ALL. I probably should have toured all the area hospitals first and THEN picked a doctor. We had some nice meth heads in our tour group which gave me MAJOR anxiety. No seriously I started shaking and crying during the tour. It was embarrassing and frustrating.

Troy has been a champ through all my emotions. He has given me some beautiful blessings and has been so supportive.

I think we finally have a Pediatrician I like. I went to one that was recommended by 2 people because Chandler had this nasty rash on his back. YAH I AM TELLING YOU WE HAVE BEEN THROUGH THE RINGER WITH SICKNESS. I haven't even told you how I got the stomach bug and literally thought I was going to die. This pediatrician didn't have soap at the sinks, paper covering the exam tables and cobwebs all over the place. He looked just like the teacher guy on the first karate kid and I could barely understand him. There is no way we are going back there!

But Yesterday I went and met a PA that was recommended by another friend (THANK YOU KALLY!) and I really like him. Here they have a pediatrician that looks at all the newborn babies at the hospital and then when you are discharged you go to your own pediatrician.

I will get little boosts of energy and get something done and then feel like I have done nothing all day. My amniotic fluid looks great now and is back in the low/normal range. I feel like I have a list of about 20 things that need to get done but not one thing will for a while. I don't like that feeling! I like being able to get things done!

So we are pushing along. Before we know it baby Z will be here and being pregnant will just be a memory.

Parenting backfire

Hinckley has been saving up the money he gets for doing chores and stuff and he decided he was going to spend his savings. In the past 18 months of so he has asked on several occasions to play one of those claw machine games at wal-mart. We have tried to explain to him that it is a waste of money and that they rig these games to just take your money leaving you empty handed. He asked if he could spend his $2 savings on one of these games. I thought to myself for a minute and said what a PERFECT learning opportunity to give him. He has saved his money for a long time and how devastating it will be for him to see his money wasted in a 30 second game that will give him nothing. I know real nice mom huh?!

So I told him we would talk it over with daddy (Troy thought it would be a fantastic opportunity for Hinckley to learn a hard lesson of gambling your money away too) and off we went to wal-mart. Hinckley was STOKED! Mommy and Daddy were pretty stoked to and ready to have a good chat about wasting money on games. We both kind of giggled as we approached the games.

Hinks seemed nervous but excited... He picked the game that cost 50 cents a turn, put his dollar in and moved the claw. Nothing... Troy and I both looked at each other with happy grin as we made his second attempt... Hinks grabbed the joy stick moved right over a bear and pushed the red button to lower it.... This time was success... HE ACTUALLY PICKED UP THE BEAR! In my head I thought there is no way that claw will hold on to it the whole way back to the bin. THERE IS NO WAY! BOY was I WRONG.

Hinks jumped UP and DOWN and had the biggest grin on his face as the bear was dropped in the delivery bin. Troy and I both looked at each other in disbelief. No seriously... How on earth did our 6 year beat the system? I mean he has never played one of these in his life... How did he do it? Then we both started laughing HYSTERICALLY. I mean really? Is this some kind of joke? What are the odds?

So we still had a nice little chat about how we spend our money but the overall tone DID NOT go how we thought it was going to go. BACKFIRE! And he hasn't left the bear out of his sight in 24 hours. Oh well maybe next time?

Monday, September 17, 2012

A year ago today...

I can hardly believe its been a year since Troy came home to us! In some ways it seems like yesterday and in some ways it seems like he never left. This past year has FLOWN by but the whole year he was gone was long and hard. I am so grateful we are here now and not 2 years ago saying goodbye.

In the last year he got a job, quit the job to go back to school, we bought a house and we are expecting baby #3. So many adventures and blessings in our life. I remember when we hit the 6 month mark of him being home and thinking I should have blogged about my feelings. I can honestly say a year later that I am grateful for the experience even though I NEVER want to do it again. I think we have adjusted well to being a family again. Troy still struggles sometimes with things PTS. Sometimes it will flare up in very odd situations and sometimes I can predict it. It has helped so much for him to be done at the jail. About 3 months ago Troy shared in depth some stories with me of things that went on over there. In his mind he had already told me and this was the first time I was hearing them. Some of them were painful to hear and they made me cringe. I cried, he cried and it has been healing for the both of us. He left the green zone almost every day and was always the lead truck. Many times he was protected and many times he would hear or see things that knew were from the other side. I can not wait to thank those on the other side who protected my best friend and the father of my children. How do you thank somebody for bringing him home safe to his family??? My prayers have been of gratitude especially today as I reflect back on that year.

We have been blessed in so many ways. Our transition to being a family again wasn't all peaches and cream but we were truly blessed. There was a statistic thrown out at one of our reintegration meetings when they got back that around 40% of marriages that go through a deployment do not last and it was proving true for the 116th. We had 2 friends get a divorce after and I have to say that it surprised me both of them. I am so thankful that we were both willing to work through whatever issues came up.

We will be celebrating tonight! I hope we can make it a tradition on September 17th to ALWAYS celebrate and express our gratitude that he came home! Thank you to everybody who prayed for us and thought of us! I will be forever in your debt for doing so!

http://thecarterfamdamily.blogspot.com/2011/09/more-homecoming-pictures.html

You can click on the link above and see a few pictures of Troy coming home!

Saturday, September 8, 2012

Sleepless nights & the Chilies Festival

WOW! What a crazy week. I think I could say that for the last 2 months!

Troy spent all of Friday night throwing up and had drill all day today and tomorrow. GOOD TIMES IN THE CARTER HOUSE. Can you guess what I did all day Saturday??? Yep disinfected the house again... I even cleaned the garage... But hey it was only like 70 degrees today which made this pregnant momma SUPER HAPPY!

Wednesday my mom and I went to a case lot sale at the local grocery store and we had fun stocking up on some food items... Only problem??? Lifting the cases!!! Sometimes I like to think I am superwoman (which I am) and have no consequences (which I do) and I was lifting those cases left and right. Couple that with lifting and moving furniture around to put the diaper changing table in the house... EQUALS=PREGNANCY HERNIA! Not even lying to you folks. Its my own darn fault... Oh and if you read my other post I HAVE NO CURRENT BABY DOCTOR. So after crying all night long in pain Thursday night, it was seriously MISERABLE, I went in to see the PA. Thank goodness this woman is wonderful and spent time with me. I am working on some exercises to help it heal (hopefully on its own) and I am not allowed to lift things, bend down (HA!), overeat (HAHAHA) you know BE A MOM! Oh good times in the Carter household...

So Monday night I was up with Hinckley most of the night with the throw ups... Thursday night I was up in pain.... Friday night I was up with Troy who puked the whole night... Yes I am planning on being up with Chandler and myself in the next few nights with the throw ups. I do feel like we are getting most of the crud out of our system before the baby comes, which I find a great tender mercy I just like to complain :) I can't even think about throwing up with a hernia... It will all work out... It will all work out... It will all work out. Plus the whole sleepless night thing is preparing me for the baby right?!

Okay enough complaining!!!!

Today in our little town they had a green chili festival. My parents went to this morning and gave us their tickets to go tonight. Troy was brave and needed some fresh air after drill so we took Hinks to it. Chandler wanted to stay and play at Grandpas which was fine with me because I didn't want to chase him around!

Hinks going down the tube slides


 He played this dart game twice and won 2 stuffed teddy bears. One for himself and one for his brother. And you get a lovely belly shot of me! HA! This is me at 36 weeks and 2 days.
 He got to ride this gorgeous horse! The lady was so nice and took him around 2 or 3 extra times.







We also ate ice-cream, jumped on a bouncy house race thingy, listened to some fun music, and had 2 balloon animals made. Chandler of course popped his about 2 minutes after getting it! It was fun. Not worth the price of getting in though, it was pricey... But a fun thing to get us out of the house!

Tuesday, September 4, 2012

MIA

Its been a while since I have blogged. It has been interesting around here with Troy starting school, Hinks starting school, and all of us sick. I am not even kidding we are still trying to kick our coughs and runny noses. I think we have a bit of New Mexico allergies... Hinks had an ear infection last week (BLAH!) and he had the throw ups last night. Poor kid just can't catch a break. And before you start saying well how clean is your house, let me tell you... We have been through 4 yes 4 cans of Lysol disinfectant spray, 3 clorox wipe buckets, and hot water like you wouldn't believe. I have cleaned places in my house I didn't even know existed. I am a drill sergeant when it comes to washing hands after using the potty, before eating and we have disinfect every time we go to the store, come home from school, church, etc. I clean the boys bathroom (including the shower, walls, handles and floor) every other day because for some reason in my head I think that is the dirtiest place in the house. I clean out the sink and wipe down the kitchen twice a day. I usually only mop 2-3 but we NEVER have shoes on in the house. I make sure all the knobs and stuff are wiped down every day too. SO WHY THE HECK ARE WE STILL SO PRONE TO SICKNESS?! GAH! This too will pass...

If you know me very well you will know that I HATE the ob/gyn. Well, I should just mention that I have been to several not so nice ob/gyn's and I have been privileged to have some who are great. When we got pregnant with baby #3 I finally mustered the courage to find a new mommy doctor. I googled and looked around and found her. THE BEST OB/GYN in Albuquerque. I went to my first appointment and was hooked on her. She wore BRIGHT pink cowboy boots and had a thick southern accent. We hit it off and I felt completely comfortable in her care. With little bumps and hiccups with this pregnancy she has reassured me of everything and has told me to NEVER HESITATE to call and I believe her. When I got so sick and dehydrated during the beginning of my pregnancy she was so upset I didn't come in sooner. When I had my spell in San Diego and got back and told her about it she wasn't too thrilled I didn't call her. This past weekend I again got really dehydrated and my kidneys were acting up so much so I was crying in bed on Sunday. Troy kept wanting to take me to triage at the hospital but I just didn't want to go because I wanted to see my doctor not some on call doctor. Well imagine my surprise when I got a phone call this morning telling me she is no longer with that practice. WHAT?! Is this a sick joke? I am less than a month away from giving birth and my doctor just up and leaves? I am so upset. I am so frustrated. I know it may not seem like a big deal but we had already talked birth plans and I knew she would do everything in her power to help me have the birth I envisioned. So now do I start brand new trying to find another doctor with only 3 appointments away from birth? Or do I go with the other doctor in the office who now has to take on ALL of Dr. Worleys patients? I have an appointment with the doctor in the same office on Friday but she is completely double booked the WHOLE DAY so do I think she will give me 15 seconds of her time? NOPE! Do I think she will care enough about me to be at my delivery? NOPE! It just makes me sick. I have read some reviews on this new doctor and they are all good but this poor woman is going to be so overwhelmed and exhausted. Will she even care that my fluids are low? BLAH! Okay sorry I am venting... I just am so frustrated at the moment. Things will work out and I will probably get some crazy military doctor who will want to slice me to pieces to get the baby out and that will be my experience.

Anyway... Life is good. I am healthy (for the most part). I have 2 beautiful boys and a husband who will help clean up puke and rub my back. We have a nice home and great family and friends. Things will work out. I just need to sit in a hot bath and hunt down Dr. Worley....

We love music in this house

The other night we were going to bed and Chandler begged his daddy to play his guitar. So Troy pulled it out and we had a great time singing together.

Chandler was more interested in dancing
And putting his Mickey Mouse to bed... Aunt Amy do you recognize that pillow case? YAH he has to sleep with it!
Hinks playing while daddy sings


Hinks singing too

Labor Day=Zoo day

On Monday we headed off to the zoo to celebrate Labor Day. My kids love the zoo and since we have free passes we might as well use them!

Yahoo a pregnancy shot!
After a bird show Hinckley got to give the bird a dollar... He was pretty excited

This bird spread its wings and it was breath taking!
Gotta represent the bald eagle!
We fed the ducks of course
Chandler and his friend the chimp...
Oh and Grandpa too!
He would jump right into the exhibit if we let him, he has no free!
It was a great day. What did you do for Labor Day?! We also had a yummy BBQ at Grandpa & Grandmas house